Being in a relationship with a manipulative person is draining . And it’s important to know when you are in a manipulative relationship. To be clear, when I say relationship I include all relationships not just romantic. We have many relationships beyond a romantic one: friends, parents, siblings, co-workers, associates. A manipulator is very crafty in word and deed. Manipulation is defined as : control or influence (a person or situation) cleverly, unfairly, or unscrupulously. Manipulator aim to get their way at all times. It’s abusive and toxic. Here are some things to keep in mind:
1. Don’t negotiate with them. For emotional manipulators, it’s all about having, showing off and gaining more power. So they’ll always push for more and more and they’ll never compromise.
2. Have clear boundaries. Manipulators will twist things around so that you feel “bad” for not doing what they want. Don’t engage with them. Don’t try to talk, or reason with them.
3. Don’t confront them. They will want reasons as to why you aren’t doing what they want. They will take offense. They will argue. They’ll then turn and attack you – and never let things go.
If you find yourself with a manipulator, please keep strict boundaries; follow through with your boundaries. These boundaries keep you safe and secure. If you are in a manipulative relationship, please seek help!