Think of how you felt most loved as a child. What was it that your caregivers, siblings, teacher, or friend did that made you feel as though they really cared for you? As your reflect upon those times, try to determine the thread that is in common. For most of us, we feel most loved by someone when they sacrificially love us in a way where they put our needs ahead of their own. Think of away that your partner has ‘loved you well’ and write them an email, send them a card, or give them a phone call/text. Thank them for the ways they have loved you.
Even the healthiest and greatest relationship go through a rut. Often times, we forget or seek or no longer see those those moments of connection. It takes effort and intention.