6 Ways to Deal With Your Insecurities

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Insecurities will lead to the end of your relationship. There: I said it! If you are feeling insecure then there is a doubt of some sort you are feeling. If you are doubting yourself or your partner then there is distrust. Distrust is not a healthy foundation for any relationship. Rather than beating yourself up for feeling insecure or creating drama in order for your partner to prove themselves to you; take control of your thinking and your behavior. Unsure of where to start? Here you go:

  1. Stop imagining your partner being untrue to you, or becoming interested in someone else. Don’t let your fears create a false reality.
  2. Let the relationship follow its own course. Allow yourself and your partner to simply be themselves, and to only commit when each is ready to commit. A good relationship is based on understanding and respect.
  3. Don’t start being sneaky, or acting in ways that make you seem suspicious or lacking in trust. That will only undermine your relationship.
  4. Focus on being positive. Instead of using up your energy on feeling insecure – or in putting yourself down, or thinking of “what ifs”, try and think about the happy, good experiences you’ve shared.
  5. Don’t compare yourself with others. We all have different strengths, personalities and gifts. Be proud of who you are – you are special and unique.
  6. Don’t compare this relationship to previous relationships. Even where things have gone wrong in a past relationship, it doesn’t mean this partner is going to treat you badly. It’s a new chapter now – give your partner a fair chance.

Notice that this post is not about how to figure out if your partner is cheating on you or not! This post is about taking a look at your thoughts, behaviors, and feelings. This is about you changing unhealthy patterns of thinking and becoming a more confident you.

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