Insecurities will lead to the end of your relationship. There: I said it! If you are feeling insecure then there is a doubt of some sort you are feeling. If you are doubting yourself or your partner then there is distrust. Distrust is not a healthy foundation for any relationship. Rather than beating yourself up for feeling insecure or creating drama in order for your partner to prove themselves to you; take control of your thinking and your behavior. Unsure of where to start? Here you go:
- Stop imagining your partner being untrue to you, or becoming interested in someone else. Don’t let your fears create a false reality.
- Let the relationship follow its own course. Allow yourself and your partner to simply be themselves, and to only commit when each is ready to commit. A good relationship is based on understanding and respect.
- Don’t start being sneaky, or acting in ways that make you seem suspicious or lacking in trust. That will only undermine your relationship.
- Focus on being positive. Instead of using up your energy on feeling insecure – or in putting yourself down, or thinking of “what ifs”, try and think about the happy, good experiences you’ve shared.
- Don’t compare yourself with others. We all have different strengths, personalities and gifts. Be proud of who you are – you are special and unique.
- Don’t compare this relationship to previous relationships. Even where things have gone wrong in a past relationship, it doesn’t mean this partner is going to treat you badly. It’s a new chapter now – give your partner a fair chance.
Notice that this post is not about how to figure out if your partner is cheating on you or not! This post is about taking a look at your thoughts, behaviors, and feelings. This is about you changing unhealthy patterns of thinking and becoming a more confident you.