As a therapist, my training involves relationships. How relationships influence our growth, our well being, and the very expression of who we become. As part of my training, I learned to work with children, adults, and kinds of family systems. It is a very natural and organic place for me to work with people. Even if I work with someone on a one-to-one basis, we talk about relationships and systems that influence their being. Maybe it is my Hispanic heritage that drew me to marriage and family therapy. The collectivistic culture that exists organically in our very homes. Naturally, these origins begin from the womb. These early relationships (once we did not choose) can be pivotal to our development and their effects long-lasting. It seemed very logical for me to understand pre-natal and post-natal health in response to my curiously around relationships. And so last year, I studied and completed a doula program. If you are unfamiliar with what a doula is,: “A doula, also known as a birth companion, birth coach or post-birth supporter, is a non-medical person who assists a woman before, during, or after childbirth, to provide emotional support and physical help if needed. They also may provide support to the mother’s partner and family.” (via wikipedia ).
In my role as a doula, I have been able to complement the knowledge and work I do as a therapist to strengthen families. I have had the honor of working with parents as they await their baby to not simply prepare them for the medical and biological aspect of parenthood but also relational. Relationships have been strengthened, families have stretched and grown to make space for a new member, and ultimately attachment and intimacy strengthen. All really amazing work that I have not shared until now.
The journey into parenthood can be exciting, scary, and challenging (so much more). You do not have to do it alone. Each experience is so unique, find your tribe, and invest in your (partner, children, family) wellness. Your world and the world at large is so much better for it.