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Let’s talk about feelings of inadequacy. In an age where we witness people’s daily lives, it can be tempting to feel compare and feel inadequate. As a result, we are left questioning our own competency and feeling like we are an imposter in the various roles we occupy. Although, logically there is an understanding that the images and stories shared are filtered through a lens; emotionally doubt can quickly settle in and lives its imprint. So, what do we do when we are feeling inadequate? What do do when you are comparing yourself to others who are on a different life journey than you are? I want to offer some actionable steps that you can take today to build your sense of self.
- Get off social media and start connecting with those who see, and who appreciate your worth. And take their words to heart, and let them help to build you up.
- Remember that your feelings are not the same as facts. Don’t live based on your feelings … as that will keep you trapped. Instead, remind yourself of ways in which you’ve grown and changed with time. You’re not who you once were – so celebrate how far you’ve come.
- Here is where I recommend counseling: we have to challenge lies you have believed about yourself – and work on changing them so they’re more accurate and true.
Overcoming feelings of inadequacy may take time, as we have to challenge the narrative that has kept you in doubt. However, once achieved your confidence will soar. You will genuinely applaud and cheer for others while building your own; with the awareness that you are creating your own successes.